No. You can't separate the reference from the referent.
Unlike a pointer, once a reference is bound to an object, it can not be "reseated" to another object. The reference itself isn't an object (it has no identity; taking the address of a reference gives you the address of the referent; remember: the reference is its referent).
In that sense, a reference is similar to a const pointer such as int* const p (as opposed to a pointer to const such as const int* p). In spite of the gross similarity, please don't confuse references with pointers; they're not at all the same.